5 Signs You Are Drinking Too Much Alcohol
I was shocked to read an article recently by Dr. Janice Whithnall that more than 500,000 middle-aged Australian women are engaging in high-risk drinking.
This is mainly due to the fact they are drowning under the pressures of teenage children, ageing parents, work responsibilities, business pressure, financial challenges and demanding partners, change of relationship status, loneliness, not feeling loved or worthy.
As much as 16 per cent of the women, the drinking was high-risk leading to dependence. This equated to 624,000 women aged between 35 and 59 struggling with risky drinking or alcohol problems.
2. Anxiety & Depression
Anxiety or depression or mental or physical collapse was actually due to consumption of alcohol. The worst affected women often had limited coping abilities and plenty of past trauma.
3. Multiple Past Traumas
It appears that they just didn't have one trauma in life, they had multiple traumas but they kept getting up. I myself have encountered multiple past traumas and have often said to my friends on the phone “don’t worry, I’ll be fine tomorrow, I’ll just pick myself up, dust myself off and get on with it.”
4. Less able to cope
But it just keeps getting harder and harder to stay in everyday life, to stay conscious and present with the amount of stress we are all under without using alcohol. Which is ironic, because alcohol removes our consciousness!
I noticed that over a period of years, particularly since the demise of my marriage that I found I was getting into a ‘habit’ of finding solace in the happy feeling that alcohol would provide.
When I reached the end of a day I used the excuse that I’d been working hard all day and it was now time to relax, besides I deserved it. So would pour a glass of wine before dinner. I’d then prepare dinner and I absolutely love a glass of wine with my food, so I had a second glass. Dinner was finished, all cleared up and time to relax in front of the TV so I would pour another glass of wine and then occasionally, I would think to myself, seems silly to leave just a glass of wine in the bottle. So I justified every single glass. Whilst sub-consciously knowing that it wasn’t good for me.
Now, at the time, that really didn’t seem excessive to me at all, I certainly wasn’t drunk, I was ‘happy’ I didn’t feel stressed, anxious, sad, upset about anything at all. In fact my world was really really good, it was great and I could do and be anything I wanted to be in that moment of unconscious consciousness.
Each morning I would wake up with ‘not quite a hangover’, but certainly thick headed, disgusting taste in my mouth, so thirsty, I would often have a stomach ache, I noticed my eyes were bloodshot and the whites were yellow and my skin looked sallow and lifeless. I’d be thinking to myself, “I must cut down on what I drink, it doesn’t feel so good”
Come the next evening and it would all begin again.
It didn’t feel like it was a problem, because I managed my day efficiently, I achieved my goals, ran a successful training company in the UK. I didn’t need to worry about it at all.
I won’t even talk about the weekends, because I spent them with people that drunk a lot, partied hard and used the drink, like I did as a crutch for confidence; being funny, amazing and great company to be with.
What made me stop?
What was it that may be decide not to drink alcohol anymore? Well it was gradual, like I said above, I was becoming more aware of the dis-ease I felt in my body. I was becoming more aware of the psychology associated with the justification of drinking. I was becoming more and more health conscious and reading more information of the effects of drinking on women in particular and the effects on our children.
Having been brought up in a home where alcohol was prevalent and having a Mother as an alcoholic I am well aware of what appears to be the ‘normality’ of seeing someone always topped up with alcohol so as a child and young adult I become de-sensitised to it.
And I don’t want any of that for my daughter. So this past year I made a decision that I wouldn’t drink alcohol any longer. Like I say it was gradual, I started with the decision that I wouldn’t drink during the week and only at weekends, that was worse in a way, because the beginning of the weekend came earlier.
I then decided that I wouldn’t drink, but wouldn’t deny myself if the urge was so great that I just ‘fancied’ a little glass of wine. That didn’t work either because I often fanciend a ‘little’ glass of wine (note the word little as justification that it was OK).
We can always find a ‘reason’ for a glass of wine such as I deserve it, or someone’s birthday, or other celebration, I need it because I’m nervous, in fact anything could be an excuse for a drop of champagne.
This is me now, in a peaceful state of blss and joyful freedom from the burden of drinking alcohol, not having to rely on it to be a confident, fun person to be with.
Does any of this resonate with you, have you found yourself in a loop of destruction? You’re not an alcoholic, but you know you are drinking a little too much to be considered to be healthy. Please write your comments below and I’ll share with you in my next post what, when and how you can stop drinking and what the benefits will be to you, once you make that decision. And yes, ladies I do mean STOP drinking so only read the next blog if you want to cease belonging to the “but I like a glass of wine” tribe.